Good Attributes of Guys which some ladies take for granted

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‎Equality is a big problem among both sexes today. There is a common saying these days that "what a man can do a woman can do better" and it is no longer news that finding a perfect partner is impossible but as impossible as it is, some people still like to say they have found a perfect partner. Its not because they have really found a perfect man or woman but one who fits in perfectly.

Understanding is what makes a person fit in perfectly but it is rather sad to see some guys getting heart broken for their nice and cool attitudes. Some girls think its their right to have a nice guy around them but the truth is,  rather than feel it its your right, just be grateful you have a great guy.

Whereas some girls pray for a good guy, others take the guys they have for granted.
Some attitudes in guys which girls take for granted include:

1. GENEROSITY   - In this context, generosity is in terms of finances. Simply because he is generous enough to spend doesn't make it your right. Lots of girls are quick to abuse this gesture taking it as a sole entitlement. Some guys have the cash but will never spend it on a girl. So if a guy spends on you, don't take it as an opportunity to open an office or extort him. Learn to say thank you because the fact is, a guy gives because he wants to not because he has to. There's nowhere its written where a guy has to be financially responsible for you because he's dating you.

2. GENTILITY - A guy who treats you like a queen should be seen as a king. Simply because he's calm, polite, courteous doesn't mean he can't be bad or rude. Its really sad to see some ladies tarnishing the image of a guy they claim to love simply because he treats them with courtesy. A lot of simple, calm, polite guys are often taken as maga, they seem to be seen as weak when in actual sense they are the real men who know what it is to take care of a woman.


3. LIGHT HEARTED & PLAYFUL - Loving a guy who plays like you are both in primary school is to be desired. Dating a tyrant or a bossy guy is in itself bondage. That a guy plays with you a lot isn't enough to disrespect him irrespective of the age difference. Some guys enjoy having their girlfriends as play mates. This doesn't mean he's immature or probably childish but when you treat him like a child, disrespect or take him for granted because he's always in a cheerful mood and has a good heart, the essence of having a friend is defeated. There should always be a line irrespective of how free and playful a guy is with you.

4. PATIENCE - Most ladies take patient guys as fools, feel they can ride on them, mistreat them and even give a nonchalant attitude. Patience is a virtue. It takes a great man to know the value of patience and understand how it works. Its difficult to find people who are really patient today.  Don't think that because he is patient you can keep been the unbearable girl and he'll keep coming back. There is always so much a person can take. So when you have a guy who is patient with you, its not a reason to keep pushing him.

5. SINCERITY & OPENNESS - That he keeps you in the known isn't weakness. That he tells you everything isn't stupidity. That you know everything
about him isn't your power.... A lot of ladies see this as weakness in as much as others crave for guys who keep no secret. He's not telling you things so you know when to use his weakness against him rather he confides in you out of trust. Don't make him look any more weak than he already accepted to you. Don't go about sharing his story, don't give him a biography of his weaknesses every time you have a fight. Be his safe place, a shoulder to always rest on.

6. LOVE - It is a common saying that " when a girl knows how you feel she will take advantage of you". This is rather alarming. In thus generation where love seem like a mirage it is surprising that some girls  would still find a guy who genuinely loves them but would over do things turning him into their toy or a maga or even their last option.  True love is hard to encounter but never turn a love so pure into darkness.

Our attitude towards people also affects the choices we make in life. It is that little thing that makes a big difference. 

Another 'Adesua Special'. Lol. So before some of you start screaming, this was written by a lady. Hehehe.